Seriously, I feel like every time there is a gift giving event (you know, Birthday, Christmas, etc.) I’m left scrambling last minute trying to find a gift for my husband. And now, here I am the day before Fathers Day and I have NO CLUE what to get him. Yes, I get it, my kids should be the ones buying him a gift. And I’m sure they’ll come up with something else great too. My daughter, who is eight, is planning to have him bring her to the mall and she’s going to use money from her piggie bank to buy him pretzels. My son, who is eleven, wants to get him a new Xbox or something, but uh, yeah, I don’t have budget for that. So they went to play paintball together as a father-son bonding time. So really, this comes down to me.
One of my big problems is that I feel like this “holiday” is pretty obscure and I feel like it has very little purpose in our modern culture. Its just another day. For mother’s day, my kids didn’t even realize it WAS mother’s day until bedtime when I told them all I wanted for mother’s day was for them to go to bed without complaining.
Another major issue, is my husband already has everything he needs and generally buys for himself anything he wants. How can I possibly compete to get him something super awesome and cool and show him how much I appreciate him as a the father of our kids? That right there, though, that’s the key. Its not so much a day to focus on him as a “father” for me I feel like its an opportunity to show him how much we appreciate him as a provider, a hug giver, a laugh maker.
Yes, mom’s do a LOT of work and often feel unappreciated. But Dads, hello?! They bring home the bacon (at least in our house.) And not only that, but he’s sacrificing his time with the kids and myself every.single.day. to bring home that bacon. He feels left out when he has to work instead of going to see our daughter do her middle-of-the-day dance camp recital. He feels hurt when he learns he’s missed out on a milestone or big adventure that we had during the day. But the fact is, his hard work and dedication isn’t as much to his JOB as it is to his FAMILY. Without his sacrifices we wouldn’t have dance camps or weekday zoo trips. For that, I thank him. For that, he makes every day a mothers day gift to me.
So, what did I get him this year? Well, its not much, but as a token of our appreciation he’ll be getting a gift certificate to his favorite local game shop (more about that adventure later) and a new t-shirt with a Superman logo on it. Because he is.
Brandi is a childbirth educator and birth doula living in West Fargo, ND. She enjoys spending time with her family, gardening, knitting and filling up her craft room with new projects when she isn’t helping families create their birth experience. You can find her actively posting on Facebook & Instagram. #dayspringdoula